IT's a HIM then!!!

Ultimately, I chose M as I think the experience would probably be more rewarding if this turns out well. Further, I think it would be a good opportunity for me to get inside his head and find out how he perceives life and what would motivate him and how should I deal with him. Am I suffocating him? Does he want more guidance? What would be the ideal environment for him to perform most efficiently?

Of course, the fear is still that I might just screw up and not do a good job but well I have to start somewhere and if I don't face it, I know i will just procrastinate and probably never do anything about it.

Now what I need is a plan, a plan that would allow him to talk freely and still get to the conclusion that I want?? No, I should be open to receive responses that may not lead to where I want. (Oh, this is so hard!!) I should not set up a trail so that he drop into my trap??? Less lawyerly like Beth said!!!

Ah, this is a lot easier said than done!!

To Orchestra a coaching experience

What do you need to prepare for a coaching session? The thought of it is daunting enough let alone planning for it. The first logical question is probably who is the coachee.

When I was told to choose a coachee, I have an internal battle. I have two options, one is a female subordinate (“F”) who has great potential and I think merely need some guidance here and there. The other is a male subordinate (“M”) who has presented some great work but have some disciplinary issues. If I choose F, it would probably be an easier task and it would not be unpleasant as it is no a correction mission. Whereas if I choose M, it could be more challenging. Do I avoid the tough one or should I confront it now or wait til I have more practice in coaching?

What’s the worst case? M hates me more? Ya, that would be the consequence that I could not face. Ah decision!! Decision!!