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Assignment due date is just around the corner and here I am not started anythoing yet!!! Scarry!!!

Have I really learnt anything from these training? I certainly have!!! Have I used some of the technic on my work, I think so.

What is that one thing that is going to stay? I think it is the awareness and ability to realise that who I am what I stand for and the constant internal battle that I will have to tell myself to shut up and listen and to realise the danger of group thinking.

What the training has successfully planted in me is the ability to keep asking myself if I have been open minded with wll argument presented and have I created an open space for the differing view. It is not the same as saying I can do all these things now but what I feel that I have definitely understood is the importance of asking these questions until one day, all these acts become a habit of mine.

Lets hope that day will come soon.

How does one coach a 5 year old kid?

Just come back from holiday, really not ready to face the real working adult world!!

Can you coach a 5 year old like how you would coach an adult? How do you make him realise his mistake and shortcoming without resorting to scolding or cold bench?? Are they capable of doing that?

Could I use the same thing of encouragement, compliement and boost of confidence on a 5 year old like what I have done on an adult??

Last entry before I go for my holiday!!! Yes finally a long awaited and well deserved holiday or so I said!!!!

Coaching is a big responsibility. It is not a process where the coachee make the commitment and the coach has nothing to do. Rather the contrary, the coach has to constantly monitor, encourage or guide to steer the coachee to the right direction.

The hardest thing I found was to find the good point of someone. It is always easy to pinpoint a shortcoming as it is most glaring!!! It is however defficult to pinpoint if someone has done something well and it does take a bid of effort to sort out who has done the right thing when things go well. I believe encouragement is a lot more possitve than criticism when someone done something wrong so I am trying to encourage and give due recognition when someone done something right. This is more difficult than I think. I thought how hard could it be to give compliment but in actual fact it is not that easy to give an accurate compliment at the right time and act as a boost for the recipent!!

Well this is an art that I have to learn to master!!!

Do we really want to move?

A brand new office, brand new furniture. Exciting!! Yes and no.

We went to the new office, the parking is very far. constrcution workers are still sleeping on our floor, we are to use the lift together with construction worker when they carry their tools. The construction works are still going on at full speed. Construction workers are at the lobby carrying out work. Carpark lift is still not working and our office is dusty. Do we really want to move in now? Can we not do it? Does it amount to insubordination?

It feels great that we have actually made the appeal and delay the move until things are more settled down. True enough there could be repercussion but what is at stake is much higher, our safety and well being. It is amazing how everyone in the department develop the sense of belonging and camaraderie when there is a common goal to fight for. The best way to unite is probably finding a common enamy to fight against with.

You don't know what you dont know
You also don't know that you are mistaken
You thought you know but actually you really dont know

How and what make people realise the above? How do we reduce the chances of falling into the above situation? How do we make an early come back after falling into it? Humble? Patient? Open mindedness? How do we jump out of the boxes that we have built for ourselves which has served us well all this while? How do we concurred the fear that we will be living without guideline and principles if we are to be open about any argument? Are we really living without guideline and principle if we were to be open minded about what people said?

Are we playing with our heads and making life difficult for ourselves? Are we supposed to ask these questions? Can we not go where people are and just hide behind them? Is that what I would want? Could I live with myself if I do that?

He said yes!!

My potential coachee finally said yes. For the past few days my stomach has been having this butterfly. I am not sure if he would say yes and I also do not want to act too anxious about the whole thing. It is a great relief when he said yes to be my coachee.

Now the next thing is what to say in the coaching session. Remember to shut up, shut up and shut up. Listen, listen and more listening!!!

IT's a HIM then!!!

Ultimately, I chose M as I think the experience would probably be more rewarding if this turns out well. Further, I think it would be a good opportunity for me to get inside his head and find out how he perceives life and what would motivate him and how should I deal with him. Am I suffocating him? Does he want more guidance? What would be the ideal environment for him to perform most efficiently?

Of course, the fear is still that I might just screw up and not do a good job but well I have to start somewhere and if I don't face it, I know i will just procrastinate and probably never do anything about it.

Now what I need is a plan, a plan that would allow him to talk freely and still get to the conclusion that I want?? No, I should be open to receive responses that may not lead to where I want. (Oh, this is so hard!!) I should not set up a trail so that he drop into my trap??? Less lawyerly like Beth said!!!

Ah, this is a lot easier said than done!!